Our Mission. Doc N Jock seeks to challenge the perception of men being more self-aware as weakness. In our society professional athletes are viewed as representative of all things successfully male. Consequently, Doc N Jock seeks to leverage this perception and change the male narrative. By modeling the relationship between healthcare professionals and former professional athletes we create a powerful positive image for change based on the joining of knowledge with real-life experiences. Our goal is to bring our slogan to life and create a world where real men talk™.
The Problem. Men traditionally have been taught that to suffer in silence is an essential part of being a man. Men shouldn’t talk about feelings. If they do, it means they’re soft. To be a man you must be tough. To cry is a sign of weakness. These traditional messages, that our society reinforces in men, have had a negative effect on the mental, relational, and physical well-being of males.
The Emotional Consequences. Males are less able to identify emotions and as a result, channel their emotions in ways that society considers appropriate. For example, sadness and grief will become anger; vulnerability will become pride. Behavior follows emotion. In the case of sadness and grief, striking out in anger becomes acceptable. In the case of vulnerability, someone betrays you or hurts you or a family member, pride will cause you to seek revenge. For boys growing into men, never understanding and learning to cope with the underlying emotions can lead to a lifetime of negative consequences such as; poor self-esteem, anger issues, domestic violence, anxiety and depression just to name a few.
The Physical Consequences. There are also physical challenges for men when they don’t learn to freely express themselves and suffer in silence. Men are reluctant to seek help and will delay requesting assistance. Consequently, men have higher rates of discovering diseases in their later stages. An example of this phenomena is colon cancer. Men will frequently minimize the importance of blood in their stool as hemorrhoids and delay seeking medical care. Consequently, what could have been treated as a benign polyp has had a chance to develop into Cancer.
The Solution. Doc N Jock has a multi-pronged publishing and media approach to establish the new narrative that real men talk™. The Richard and the Boyz book series is designed to help men normalize their developmental experiences at every life stage. At www.RichardNtheboyz.com we offer age appropriate forums for males of all ages to ask questions and get answers. More importantly, the forums provide the opportunity for males of all ages to realize they are not alone in their questions. Blog with Dr. N provides helpful educational commentary on current issues. We are providing bulk purchase discounts to Community Partners on Richard and the Boyz: The Puberty Experience so that the book can be provided as a resource to boys that may not otherwise have access, such as boys in the foster care system, orphanages, juvenile detention centers and mentor programs. Have a man or boy you want to get talking? Visit our online store for empowering gifts to send your special someone. Video projects are currently under way to promote real men talk™ on our youtube channel.
- Dr. Nadine Pierre-Louis, Founder and CEO
Good Morning LaLa Land interviews Dr. Nadine Pierre-Louis on helping males better cope with complex emotions.
Dr. Nadine Pierre-Louis resides in Florida and is the mother of two sons, ages 24 and 20. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Human Growth and Development Educator with more than 15 years of experience. In addition to her private practice, Dr. Pierre-Louis works as an Adjunct Professor at one of the nation’s largest community colleges where she has gained a reputation for using humor to simplify complex concepts, making learning fun. Prior to pursuing a career in mental health, Dr. Pierre-Louis had a successful career in the Financial Services and Real Estate Development fields. Following a violent workplace tragedy, Dr. Pierre-Louis changed the trajectory of her life, choosing to pursue her lifelong goal which is to study and contribute to a better understanding of human behavior. Dr. Pierre-Louis, has a BBA in International Finance and Marketing from the University of Miami, a Master of Science in Marriage and Family Therapy from St. Thomas University, and a PhD in Conflict Analysis and Resolution from Nova Southeastern University. She is also Founder and CEO of Doc n Jock LLC, whose mission is to enhance awareness and communication on male issues and to publish the Richard and the Boyz series. Dr. Pierre-Louis is the recipient of the 2016 AC4 Columbia University IACM Fellowship.
"To be old and wise, you must first be young and stupid."
Jason A. Caffey has lived a complex and complicated life. Growing up dealing with constant verbal abuse was traumatic. Basketball, however, offered an all-important healthy alternative. At an early age Mr. Caffey began a successful career in basketball. Climbing to the top of his profession, he played on two World Championship teams with Chicago Bulls—1995-96, 1996-97. He played alongside some of the greatest players to ever play the game. Michael Jordan, Scottie Pippen, Dennis Rodman and the current Head Coach of the Golden State Warriors, Steve Kerr. Unfortunately, Mr. Caffey made headlines off the basketball court as well. Mr. Caffey fathered 10 children by 8 different women.
Following his retirement from the NBA he was unable to meet his extensive child support obligations. Those obligations were based on income before retirement; a 35-million-dollar contract. Several issues led to his early retirement. As noted by the press at the time, he experienced mental health issues, such as anxiety and depression. In addition, he had to deal with the physical toll a professional athlete endures to keep a high-level career on track and the stress of being a public figure. Today, he continues to work on resolving his child support issue. He has accepted responsibility and wants the best for every one of his children. He knows the court will be a constant part of his life until his children reach the age majority.
Following intensive therapy, Mr. Caffey came to realize his desire for children was more than the lure of the fast-paced NBA lifestyle. The abusive environment he grew up in triggered a deep-seated desire to try to receive unconditional love. Children represented, to him, an opportunity for unconditional love and he “wanted it in abundance.” While Mr. Caffey states that any parent is challenged to have a positive relationship with their children—he now knows he is no exception. In his case, parenting has presented unique challenges. He has worked to maintain positive relationships with all his children, but this has not always been a smooth journey. Six of them are successfully attending various colleges across the country.
Jason Caffey currently has a very positive relationship with his parents', who served as a source of support during his most trying days. He now understands that his childhood experiences were, in part a result of his families struggles with possible mental health issues. Jason realizes that misinformation, peer influences, childhood environment and a lack of communication contributed to unhealthy decisions with lifelong consequences. Jason realizes that misinformation, peer influences, childhood environment and a lack of communication contributed to unhealthy decisions with lifelong consequences. Mr. Caffey views his participation in the Richard and the Boyz endeavor is his opportunity to help others learn from his experiences. His goal is to demonstrate that life can be better when real men talk™.
Sherry Wilson-King, LMFT, CAP, is a Florida Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Certified Addiction Professional, and Certified Clinical Supervisor. With more than 20 years of clinical experience, running the full gamut of Social Services from treatment to re-entry and transitional housing, she brings a broad breadth of knowledge to her various endeavors. Sherry, currently based in Atlanta, Georgia, also has extensive experience and training in public relations and communications. In addition to her other ventures and projects, she provides personal growth and relational coaching as well as multi-tiered consulting services. These consulting services range from working with not-for-profits to academic and arts coaching, writing, and editing. Sherry, wife and mother of three daughters, is working on her doctoral degree in Psychology and is the author and illustrator of The Adventures of Koosey the Ladybug (2007), a therapeutic children’s book that emphasizes the importance of coping with change.
Koosey the Ladeybug